Monday, March 2, 2009

Light Skinned Vs. Dark Skinned

OK! I know everyone at some point heard a weird story or two about light skinned vs. dark skinned men or woman before right? Well yesterday I was on yahoo IM ( yes again lol) and I was speaking to a friend of mine about relationships, and so on. And he was like "I like this guy but I don't trust him." And I asked why, and his response was "Oh because he's light skinned." So I'm like is that the only reason? And for the the most part he said yes. So I said, "if he was dark skinned, then you could probably be more relaxed & loosen up a bit" and he said "correct". I was extremely surprised at his answer. Yes I know everyone has their preferences, but damn. I just feel like what makes you think a dark skinned guy wouldn't hurt you vs. a light skinned guy. I mean is it just me or does that just sound crazy to you? He also said light skinned boys think they are all that, and think they can get what they want. I was just totally blown away by this conversation that enough was enough lol. I personally feel that the color of you skin don't define the type of man or woman you are. I also feel that light skinned, and dark skinned males & females are beautiful. I also disagree with his his comment when he says light skinned guys think they can get what they want, because if you look at the pictures I have above, these two guys (in my opinion) are both equally hot! If I wasn't married, they both could get what they wanted from me LMAO!!!! But seriously, people need to not let someone pass them by because of the color of their skin. It's one thing to say your just not into a certain look or what not, but to go as far as putting everyone in the same category because of their skin color or your own personal bad experience is not cool. I think my buddy is being way too judgmental as well as ignorant.

23 comments:

LudaKhris said...

Totally agree, stereotypes are never a good thing to base life decisions on.

ps. The light skinned dude is hotter :-)

deonte' k said...

LudaKhris: U are a fool u know that lol... and they both are cute lol... I agree with the rest of ur comment tho! ;)

speaking hypothetically said...

GOOD BLOG!...NEVER KNEW PEOPLE TOOK THOSE STEROTYPES SO SERIOUSLY. I KNOW WE ALL HEAR THEM BUT TO BASE A RELATIONSHIP ON THEM IS VERY JADED.

(P.S. BOTH DUDES ARE HAWT!)

deonte' k said...

speaking hypothetically: Yes man they do.

P.S. They are lol!!!!

JB said...

Well since you're married, I know you won't mind if I take BOTH of these gentlemen off your hands..LOL
But yea I agree your friend is being a bit irrational in his thinking.
By the way, what skin tone is he?

Romey said...

D, this topic will never die. Light skin vs. dark skin has been a MAJOR issue for years. Now, I normally don't date light skinned dudes (that's just my preferences) and it has nothing to do with them hurting me or feeling a certain way about them. But this topic can go both ways. Like I heard some people think that dark skinned dudes are gutter and grimy than light skinned dudes. The list goes on and on. I love that my complexion is dark because it defines who I am as a person. If nobody likes it, then that's their problem.

Cash S. said...

Yeah this goes back to before we were even born lol. Light skin = privileged. Dark skin = deprived.

In your friends case he's probably stuck on the whole light-skin, pretty boy, play boy thing. Its a common stereotype. He'll get over it in due time.

Acoustic Soul said...

Oh geez! Too much. Tell ya friend to get it together!

Jon said...

"I like this guy but I don't trust him because he's light skin." I mean really?!? Sometimes gay men have this long as laundry list of things they want and they wonder why they stay single. How can one determine if someone is trustworthy based on their skin color? I know everyone has their preference but I think it's ridiculous not to date someone because he's dark skin or light skin (no shade Romey). So what happens if you meet someone who is dark skin, he's a really good guy and you hit it off with him? You wouldn't date him just because of his skin color?

Oyin said...

dang, man....I didnt know that color made the opinion of trust. I always knew it was judge as far as looks, but damn. Okay sooooo, I guess I should be pretty well trusted...hahahaha



where are my pics??

thegayte-keeper said...

guess he needs to understand that his words ONLY has power if he let it...

Allan said...

Well that's his preference I guess.......it's narrow minded and ignorant but it is what it is right?!

Both men are equally hot!

slimm215 said...

Now i'm not gonna call your friend stupid but i will say that that is one of the DUMBEST things I have ever heard. So you can't trust a guy because he is light skin is crazy. Is he saying because the the guy is light skin he has more dating options than a brown skin guy thus he can't trust him? i just want to know where that thinking comes from. I know I personally never really had a dating preference as far as color. I like both shades. Now Rome says that his dark skin defines him as a person. I would really love to know how.

Romey said...

Slimm215: It defines because I had to overcome the harsh realities of growing up and hearing those ugly phrases like "Tar baby" or "Blackie". It was also hard for me to date (even females) because they weren't checking for me. But I never let it get to me. I overcame and became a strong person. People started noticing me because of my personality and how I carried myself.

jerzey_reality said...

wow..light skin, dark skin, my asian persuasion lol..but yeah thas a mess..since when did the color of ur skin determine ur actions...guess its a good thing im mid-skinned..im all toasted almondy lol

The Voice of DemondMaurice said...

Does your block button work on yahoo? I suggest you give it a try on this person. While his ignorance did provide you with a blog I don't think you should continue having conversations with him.

What's next for him? Fat People lie and skinny people steal?

D-Place said...

I was going to make a post about light skin and dark skin too. Not about trust though.

Anyway, I don't think this matters and goes back to days when lighter skinned people were treated better and some felt more privledged and let the darker skinned know it.

I do believe that there is still some of this that exists..but it's stupid all the same. It's just like someone with or without glasses and what we think about them just because they wear glasses.

The Antonym said...

OMG. Yeah this is an age-old topic but so very relevant. Your friend has issues. LOL

I have dated both very light (almost white) and black as tar and I find that dudes are dudes. I do have a preference but does it matter? It's superficial and speaks nothing of a person's character.

Most people gravitate to light-skin as it's deemed prettier but you don't know what's inside that mind. Anyway, dark skinned guys are "in" this season. LOL

Jeff0418 said...

The whole light skin v.s. dark skin is a bunch of Cocka -poopie... not matter what tone a persons skin is if they are gonna hurt you they are gonna hurt you. Just insanity I tell you....

Mr. Jones said...

Your friend is an absolute idiot. Those boys are cute.

deonte' k said...

I would try to comment back to everyone, but that would take me forever lol... but thanks for the comments... and for those who wanna know his complexion.. he's brown skin!

TCeezy00 said...

Great post sir!

Katrina said...

You're friend is a doofus.

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