"SOMETIMES WE PUT UP WALLS NOT TO KEEP PEOPLE OUT BUT TO SEE WHO CARES ENOUGH TO BREAK THEM DOWN!!"
U know, I was browsing myspace this am while getting dressed for Church, and I ran across this quote. It made me think a little, because I'm a person who always have a wall up. I'm always saying I don't trust this nor that whenever when it comes to people. But for some reason when I let certain folks in the wall does seem to come down a little. So maybe this quote could mean something. Maybe when people do care enough to break them down (the walls) we feel special, and what not, but what happens when they break them down, and leave all the mess for you to clean up? Then what? I guess it's all in how you look at it huh? Maybe next time instead of breaking the wall down, we as people should let people take the time to just climb over. It seem way to easy to just find something to bang the wall down. So folks it's nothing wrong with putting up walls to protect yourself from the evils of the world, but instead of building wall after wall. Just keep the one you built from the start, and the person willing to climb over it "MAYBE" (there is still a chance that it could be something that might go wrong) they will be worth it all. You would think that the person might think to themselves, hey this is a big ol' wall for me to climb. So I better make sure I wanna do this lol. Because they should know as long as it took them to climb this big ol' wall, it will be as twice as much getting back over it!
Just thought I'd share my thoughts. Off to church then a movie. I gotta see "Made of Honor". This will be my 3 movie date alone lmao. I was one to say it's no way I will ever go to a movie alone, well it's starting to become a fun experience. Plus hey it's way cheaper lol. ;)
Have a great Sunday! Get up and go talk to Jesus lol. That's what im about to do. Lord knows I need to lol.
6 comments:
That quote is on point. I'm the same way i put up so many walls and in mind i say it's to keep people out but in reality it's just to see if the person cares. Oh & it' nothing wrong with going to the movies alone sometime you need some "me" time.
*to see if the person cares enough to try and break the wall down, & it's nothing wrong with going to the movies alone*
i was trying to do more than one thing at a time lol.
WOW. once again you amaze me sir. that was a really good read. kinda inspiring actually. well you never cease to amaze me punk. i love these writings way more than the entertainment stuff. Not because i'm nosey which i am (AT TIMES) but just feels more personal. On another note I ALWAYS told you nothing was wrong going to the movies by yourself.
Walls . . .
I believe we all have walls. We could have walls when it comes to relationships (romantic involvment or not), religion, work, etc. It's how we approach the person with the walls once they are recognized. Sadly to say we don't know the person has walls unless they tell us, and 9 times out of 10they don't. Once we find out about the walls they have, it's because we've run smack into them.
How do we handle this as the person with walls?? That's a damn good question, huh? We can't let the wall down for everyone that comes our way, but I do like your analogy. Allow the person the opportunity to climb over the wall. Once they get over the wall and past the fire breathing dragon and the crocodiles, leave the wall where it is. Don't pick it up and carry it every where with you. When that person does or says something to send up intruder alerts, kindly escort them to the gate, and tell them "have a nice day".
We have to be careful as to who we block out and who we allow in. Blocking everyone out could be blocking your blessing. You never wanna block a blessing, so just walk carrying a big stick.
What some friends from my myspace page said about this subject & post:
Jody: Deonte i used to surround myself by stone walls ...as i have gotten older i have learned that we cant be responsible for what others do with what we put out there ..we can only remain truthful to who we are and how we present ourselves so when we walk away ..at least we can hold our head high...
as humans we make mistakes and leave others a mess, intentionally or unintentionally, its a part our life and the emotions we find through it ..unfortunately all too often we bring our past experiences into our future and sometimes in doing so we miss out on a great opportunity to meet someone who does truly care ...
in order to have someone break through a wall and be truthful with you ..you have to be willing to become vulnerable yourself and not set expectations ...all too often we set expectations that others can not reach ..always leaving us disappointed ..if we enter into something new with no expectations we then can understand that no matter what happens at least you did your best and remained truthful to you ...
in order to not be so ademant about putting those walls up we need to find love and respect for ourselves and be strong in communication with others , even if it can be hurtful or not what was expected ..when you are truthful to others it will likely bring truth back to you ..after all we get what we put out there ...
its ok to build walls for some protection ..however if you are building a 100 ft wall ..not many people will be capable of climbing it ...you have to build your wall a little less higher ..those who acheive are meant to take a second glance at ..those who grab a bulldozer and ram through it ..are to be concerned about ...those who dont see the wall as an obstacle ..are the ones who will remain no matter what ...
we cant expect others to get in and share if we arent willing to come out and share also ...
you are an amazing sweet caring soul ..and you deserve true happiness ..dont block yourself from experiencing the sprinkles of happiness that comein between the messes ...after all they are meant to teach you , or the other persons , lessons throughout life ..we have to be willing to be open to experiencing all connections ...even if they leave us hurt ...its part of getting you to the journey you have been waiting for...great post i wish we saw more of this from you i think alot of us can relate to these blogs ...love ya always
!!!!D!!!!: "Just thought I'd take a moment, and let U kno that I truly enjoyed your "Walls" blog. Your words were simple, but poignant. Funny thing, me and Jody had a discussion, on this very topic, the other day. We shield ourselves, from so many things, because of past or present experiences, unknowingly depriving our lives of much needed growth or blessing. On the other hand (as you've stated), all bullshit aside...If, someone has a genuine interest in getting to the know the REAL you, they will extend themselves and make the extra effort, no question. Reminds me of one of my favorite quotes on 'Karma', that says: "How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours."
I appreciate YOUR perspective, D. ;0)
BTW, U betta go and enjoy ya OWN company! LOL Who says U need a 'CREW', 2 validate YOU???????
Have a GREAT day, 'BUDDY'! LOL"
Yea walls are a good thing at times because we use them to keep what we feel is going to do us harm out. So there is nothing wrong with walls at all to keep our heart and emotions safe.....just remeber to keep your eyes open and senses alert just incase you suspect some kinda fool play that way you can show them they way back over that wall...sometimes the best movie or any kind of company can be you and you alone.
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